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WIW: Taking my BF Grocery Shopping

August 25, 2012

I've decided to enter therapy with my BF to make this relationship work. I'm heading out to get some groceries and it's cool enough to wear my BF jeans so am giving it a "go".

Taking in all the wonderful advice I received from my fellow YLFers http://youlookfab.com/welookfa.....with-my-bf I've figured out there are a couple of things I need to add to my BF looks in order to feel like me:

1. Something feminine
2. A good strong looking belt for a bit of a structured feel
3. Colour
4. At the minimum, a semi tuck to show I do still have a waist, and sometimes even a full tuck

Taking these four points into account, I've paired the smaller of my BF jeans with a feminine green blowsy tee - the detailing around the neckline and the shape of the neckline of the tee make it feminine; the green is my pop of colour; my wide belt gives me my structure; and my gold metallic flats are another feminine touch. I've also fully tucked the tee - it's still voluminous in a way but under control.

I think this works - please give me your honest feedback and let me know if you think I'm on to something with these four points. As always, all comments/feedback welcome.

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17 Comments

  • Parsley replied 11 years ago

    Works for me!
    Does this feel more like you?

  • Suz replied 11 years ago

    Shannon, you crack me up. if you break up with your boyfriend he will be heartbroken at losing all the "fun times."

    I think this does work. It is not your most figure flattering look ever, I must be honest. But I don't think you expect that, so it's okay.

    I think a bit of a heel helps with the BF (for me) ... it is still too hot for me to wear mine here but I foresee them with my Reports and my Marcies and not flats. Do you think a heel might help you, too? When I tried mine with flats I felt...flat.

    I also think that something with a stronger shoulder might give you a bit more balance. Or maybe even a more boat-type neckline. I'm not 100% sure about that....and it might destroy the feminine effect you are after...so think on it. I DO think the green T is so pretty on you and it does add a lovely feminine drape to the whole!

  • Astrid replied 11 years ago

    I really like it! I hope you found a formula that works for you. I'm also still figuring out my bf, but I'm sure we will work out! ;)

  • Krista replied 11 years ago

    I really like this combination a lot, Shannon! I wore my BF shorts last night and paired them with a more feminine top and felt much better, as I had been feeling the same kind of angst as you!
    I think I have realized that I cannot wear too many casual items with the BF shorts because then I feel sloppy, and sloppy does not work with my curves! The pairing of more feminine items makes me feel a little more put together. Is it the same for you?

  • Angie replied 11 years ago

    Adorable. You nailed it with flats.

  • JR replied 11 years ago

    I am finding for myself, that 1/2 or 3/4 length sleeves make me look a little wider through the shoulders and draw the attention away from my apple a little better. That might be something to take into consideration with your BFs. Hard in the heat, I know. I am so looking forward to cooler weather for that.

    On the whole, it's a fun outfit. I really do like the flats with it, and the drape of the top. The belt gives me pause, though. Less of a colour contrast might work better here, and perhaps a semi-tuck, if the top is open to the idea.

  • Sveta replied 11 years ago

    Shannon, you therapy session really paid off and it is clear from your smile. You and your BF look pretty happy together! :-)
    Have you tried to semi-tuck? This is my BF mantra now, I find it more flattering that tucking on not rail thin bodies (like mine :-) It also adds some spank to the outfit IMO.

  • Jem replied 11 years ago

    I'm glad you decided to not dump your boyfriend yet... ;-) I think you look great. The green is really pretty on you. Once thing I've found is that BF jeans are so comfortable! You look perfect for relaxing on the weekend.

  • texstyle replied 11 years ago

    I think it's very cute - love the shoes and color with these - and def. on the way towards your perfect BF match. JR has a point, I often wear (very light weight) 3/4 sleeve cotton tees with my BF shorts and jeans. The extra fabric and line it creates does give more "weight" to my upper half compared to the lower to balance things out. Or sometimes I even do the opposite and wear deep toned sleeveless tank tops because I do have strong shoulders and the lighter color of the skin helps balance the shape. I almost always wear a pendant with non-v-necks to help create a longer line. Overall I think this is the right direction.

  • Transcona Shannon replied 11 years ago

    Parsley - it does feel a bit more like me, but not completely yet. Still a work in progress.

    Suz - I agree that is definitely not the most figure flattering. I definitely look "wide" in this outfit. But somehow it's not bothering me so much in this outfit - not sure why. I agree about trying a strong shoulder line. When I look at how fab Una looks in her BF jeans, I think part of it is her strong shoulders. They help to balance out the hips of the jeans. I have narrow, sloping shoulders and I think that makes my hips look even wider than they are. I'm looking forward to trying them with blazers that have strong shoulders. I do also agree with adding a bit of a heel but too warm to do that. I'm ok with the flats.

    JR and Sveta - I think you're right that a semi tuck would work better. Thanks for the tip.

    Jem - they are indeed very comfy. Perfect for grocery shopping and then a bit of lazing!

  • Gaylene replied 11 years ago

    OK, if I'm being honest, I'd have to say that I'm not loving the wide, light-colored belt because, to my eye, it's drawing a wide horizontal line that is the first thing that I notice. Maybe if the belt was a darker shade, the emphasis would shift to your lovely, feminine top.

    But, remember, I'm squarely in the camp of thinking that the BF is not an easy guy to handle, even for celebrities who have a lot of experience with these types. You look so fantastic in so many of your other outfits that, if this was a for-real relationship, I'd be scratching my head, wondering why you are staying with someone who is not nearly good enough for you. Your friends might like him, and he may even behave nicely towards you at times, but there are so many other good ones out there who would give you less hassle and adore you the way you deserve. :)

  • Suz replied 11 years ago

    Gaylene, you are so funny!

    The thing is... the boyfriend is SO DARN COMFORTABLE to be around! With this guy, you can really let it all hang out. He doesn't judge you. He takes in all your curves -- and then some. He likes you any old way. He doesn't need you to show up in your makeup or with your hair freshly coifed. He invites you to curl up with him on the couch or to swing on the park swings or to play with your kids or grandchildren.

    I dunno....but those are pretty good qualities in a guy, and I, personally, am willing to forego a little flattery for that down-and-dirty honesty and comfort.

  • Jilly replied 11 years ago

    You look great Shannon - love your BF and love th green top on you

  • Gaylene replied 11 years ago

    I dunno, Suz. You could say the same thing about his brother--the sweatpant.

    Why do we defend the one we call the BF and go to so much effort to make the relationship work (I mean, Shannon is one determined lady who seems to be doing all the work here!), and then turn up our noses at those who want to be with his sibling? Just saying...

  • Deborah replied 11 years ago

    Shannon I do like this combo and I think it very "you". I do think with BF jeans figure flattery becomes less important. I am not saying these are not flattering just not in a more traditional sense, I find the wide belt doesn't really create definition. I am wondering if a lower contrast belt with the semi tuck would work a little better. But then I think it's challenging to create waist definition with a pant that sits on the hips:). The colored top is great and I prefer the smaller sized jeans (agree entirely with observations on previous post about the width of the legs). This version, to my eye is very "put together", has structure a d looks like you.

  • Transcona Shannon replied 11 years ago

    Thanks for your input and honesty Gaylene - you've given me much to think about.

    Deborah - I think the belt is not quite right as others have pointed it out as well as you. Will try a darker/lower contrast belt next time.

    Thanks for the input everyone!

  • lyn67 replied 11 years ago

    I actually love this, Shannon, BF/big white belt, and all!- the only question is, how it looks from the side view, as we have to think in 3D, too..if doesn't make you look wider on the waist than you actually are (or use to look in more conventionally flattering silouettes) then i say, go for it! I guess some grocery shopping shouldn't give us such a big headache...
    (love that teal tee and your allways gorgeous smile, nomatterwhat you're wearring)

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I started playing dress up when I was 4 years old and haven't stopped since! My income doesn't match my tastes so it's all about figuring out how to thrift my way to a fashionable life while tossing in a few delectable items.