Thrifting Queen

36 Comments

• modgrl replied 11 years ago

  It is a fad that will pass in time. Have some fun with them now. Enjoy stretching your style. When the trend passes, put them away and don't look back :)

  Midi's are fun for me right now, but I know they are not a permanent part of my wardrobe.

• replied 11 years ago

  I'm guessing I would completely agree with you.

• Suz replied 11 years ago

  well, you know how it is with BFs. It's okay for us to play the field and then ditch them...

  If you don't feel like YOU, that's not good. But I would say try them out a few times to see if it's just a question of stretching the comfort zone. OR check your rubric. What elements are missing from your outfits when you wear them? Colour? Retro? Maybe you need to add a feminine element?

• replied 11 years ago

  That's too bad. When you wear them, I think you have a nice boyish, retro edge.

• Janet replied 11 years ago

  I understand. I dip my toe in some trends to find they don't resonate deeply with me. Usually that's when I'm glad I generally don't spend a lot on really trendy pieces.

• cheryle (Dianthus) replied 11 years ago

  Perhaps you feel you are cheating on your more ladylike look. :)

  I agree that it is a trend that is to be enjoyed for today and then forgotten (much like many other BFs). If they are fun to wear you can still enjoy them knowing they are a short term look.

• Isis replied 11 years ago

  Could it be that figure flattery is a priority for you?

  Personally, I love the slouchy bad vibe of BF jeans, but it's the attitude I love!

• Angie replied 11 years ago

  *chuckle*

  The title of this thread had me in stitches.

  But onto your feelings. This happens from time to time, Shannon. Something can look fab but not feel like "you". Do you prefer the smaller size to the larger ones?

  My hunch is that you need to keep your BF jeans outfits feminine. You have a lovely ladylike edge to your look, and when it's missing - you miss it! Try that for starters.

  I learned just this week that although I LOVE flats and all Tomboy vibes, I prefer my baggy husband jeans with a little heel (LOW heel of course). So that's how I am going to wear them. I much prefer my clams, Bermudas, skinnies, dresses and skirts with flats.

  Hope this helps.

• Sona replied 11 years ago

  no BF for me too. my hips and thighs, knees are much slimmer ( relatively) than my waist and belly . i've tried kut from the kloth and gap sexy bf's and they just don't work!! I'm a skinny jean kind of gal!

• Mo replied 11 years ago

  I'm with you! I am just vain enough to want my rear view to look good, not slouchy, so I have given them a pass unless and until I can find a pair that compliments the hiney ;)

• Jonesy replied 11 years ago

  Both sizes, or just the larger ones? Is there something else going on in your life that is making you re-think things? Not to get all psychological on you, but sometimes I have more doubts when I am feeling unease about other aspects in my life, and it's just reflected in my clothing feelings....OTOH, maybe you were just swept up in the excitement over them, but now, upon reflection, they are just not "you"? That's fine too. It happened to me with a PB blouse. Bought it, wore it a few times, and now it's gone, because PB blouses are just not me, no matter how trendy or inexpensive or how small the bow was!

  Speaking of BF jeans and trendiness: I was looking through an old Lucky magazine from 2004 and found a Gap ad that included BF style jeans! I think they've been around for a while now, but were pushed to the margins because of the skinnies phenomenon. Now it seems like there is room for lots of different denim silhouettes, which is so refreshing. But, again, if you are not feeling it, then wash your hands of them!

• Beth Ann replied 11 years ago

  I hear you, Shannon. I chose "loose" over baggy, if you know what I mean, for that reason. I'm sure my version is far from edgy. I love the feel of the "ease" in the fit. Such a nice switch from skinnies, which aren't, well, skinny on me. What about softer, slouchier trousers? I think you already have a pair, don't you?

• replied 11 years ago

  I hear you Shannon. I've had a few outfits or items get a K-rating from Angie, but after the glow of her praise wore off, I just didn't feel like the item was *me*. I now have BFs in two sizes, but seriously the smaller size feels more (emotionally) comfortable for me, and I need to wear them full-length-- unrolled-- with pointy-toe flats to feel like I can pull them off.

• celia replied 11 years ago

  Yeah, sometimes that happens with BF.
  I thinking that making it more you is a great advice.As in any other thing in life it also depends on when and how you use it.I like to wear mine in the slighty nerdish way as in my last wiw. Wouldn't try to wear it in a hip way or if body flatering was an issue that day.

• K. Period. replied 11 years ago

  *Whew!* So I'm not alone. I like the look, but I like it better on others than on me. I have a slightly slouchy pair of jeans that I wear in the bf style, but they are definitely on the more fitted end of the spectrum. As in, I'm not entirely sure that they aren't just slightly oversized jeans rolled up. Actually, I'm sure that that's what they are. That's my interpretation of the trend in a way that feels okay to me. Definitely not cutting edge. However, I've got my huge mommy arms, post-baby belly and trim legs, so losing the part of me that feels the trimmest (my rear and legs) in a sea of denim feels wrong to me. Not my figure flattering priority. Even though I have loved your bf looks--and I really have--I can also appreciate that they just don't feel good to you. Nothing ventured, nothing gained, though, right?

• Parsley replied 11 years ago

  I hear you, Shannon, although I think you look great in your BF jeans. I've wanted so much to take part in the trend, but decided that I just can't. They just don't fit into my current style and image I want to project.

  Even if yours turns out to be just a brief fling, you can always wear them around the house or for the occasional grocery run.

  But before you give up on them, why not try them with a heel as Angie has suggested, or something along the line of the picture Anna posted, from Atlantic- Pacific.

  http://atlantic-pacific.blogsp.....imple.html

• catgirl replied 11 years ago

  Aw, darn. I love you in your BFs. Have you looked at Kensie Everyday? I just realized yesterday that she has a slew of outfits with these exact jeans. Yes she is 5'9" and young enough to be our daughter, but the basic inspiration is very feminine cool casual.

• texstyle replied 11 years ago

  I think adding feminine touches is what makes BF jeans okay for me. But mine are not all that baggy. And my DH likes them so that makes me feel better. Mine are mostly a faded, comfy pair of jeans that say "summer jeans" to me. I do find I prefer them with sandals, jewelry and feminine tops. Like a white button down, pretty belt and gold pendant necklace. I would never go the sweatshirt or flannel shirt route with them for myself. I do still love my skinny jeans - just not in the heat of Texas summer.

• Gaylene replied 11 years ago

  Well, from the pictures I've seen of bloggers and celebs, and here on the forum, I think that BFs are not the easiest trend to get right, especially on curvier or more mature figures. While the slouch may look fine from the front, I think the back view is another matter. To me, it's a question of degree-- how much am I willing to give up just to look trendy or "have fun"..

  The sexy/cute look of rolled and baggy jeans, to my eye, also seems to look more natural on a young-looking, slim-hipped woman who (theoretically) may have just dashed out from her boyfriend's apartment. When I tried a pair of BF jeans (hey, why not experiment because you never know), instead of sexy/cute, I looked like I had grabbed a pair of husband's old jeans and was ready to do some yard work. All that was lacking was an old straw hat. Functionable, maybe, but definitely not my most fashionable look.

  I keep coming back to Angie's statement about grown-up looks. To me, BF jeans on many older women just don't do us any favors. That doesn't mean that I can't wear slouchy looks, but, maybe, boyfriends, in real life and in jeans, may not work out as well as we had hoped.

• catgirl replied 11 years ago

  Another thought is to go the 50s vintage/retro look, which would fit with your style. I agree with Parsley that the Atlantic-Pacific look with a blazer may also dress them up for you (with heels or your three-tone oxfords)...

• Diana replied 11 years ago

  So a couple of days ago Angie said that my style is both tomboy and girly at the same time. I'm wondering if you could apply that thinking to your BF dilemma as well, Shannon. So pair the more masculine BF jeans with more feminine blouse or something.

  I like to pair my BFs with something sheer, something in a bright, "girly" color, or something with embellishments or ruffles or something. I'm not sure though that because of my long hair I always have the feminine element anyway.

  For example, here I paired them with a embellished tee with beading and stuff. Similarly, here I wore them with a bright pink silk top.

• Transcona Shannon replied 11 years ago

  You gals are FULL of such fabulous wisdom and ideas! So much so that I will not kick my BF to the curb just yet. I'm going to play with him a bit (which I'm sure he'll love - lol!) and see what I can do to make this relationship work. I think you're right that I'm missing the feminine and retro side to the look.

• shiny replied 11 years ago

  I tried it too -- also wasn't me.

• Beth Ann replied 11 years ago

  Ooh! Una's onto something -- Think Marilyn in the "Misfits" --- all the starlets who wore this look in the 50's.

• Suz replied 11 years ago

  Yeah...I think Marilyn would have to be THE definition of the "sexy boyfriend." !!

  But seriously, that BF will reward a bit of play. And if not, you can pass him onto someone less discriminating.

• KathyL replied 11 years ago

  You ladies are cracking me up with the double entendres. Shannon, I am not a fan of the BFs on myself either. I do appreciate the look on you and others here. I think you have looked great in them, and I hope you're able to find a way to feel comfortable in them too.

• jen replied 11 years ago

  I spend big to buy the perfect jeans that give my bottom shape and lift. I would NEVER wear baggy jeans!!!

• catgirl replied 11 years ago

  Yes, I just saw a pic of Marilyn in rolled up BF jeans.

  http://images.search.yahoo.com.....bWV4XRTMIV

• Transcona Shannon replied 11 years ago

  OMG Una - LOVE that picture of Marilyn in her BF's! Ok...the wheels are turning now...I need to find a way to make the BF's feminine and retro to counteract the non-figure flattering aspect of them.

  Gonna have to go play in my closet...

• Mona replied 11 years ago

  Shannon, I really like the BF WIW's that you have posted so far. When I put on the Bf's yesterday just to see the fit, I thought that is not "me" at all but I really like the new look in the mirror. So it wasn't "me" but i liked it. For you , if it's not you and you dont like it then it is a relationship problem. But there are ways to fix it like others have mentioned above.

• Sveta replied 11 years ago

  Shannon, they may be not your cup of tea and this is OK. However second the suggestion to try them with more structured and sharp companions. My white blazer is a favorite partner for my BF jeans. I also like them with a bit of heel but also with flat oxfords: somehow the edginess of oxfords makes it up for the flatness of them :-)

• rae replied 11 years ago

  If I am remembering your recent BF WIWs correctly, I think structure up top may help... as in the rubric (structure, color, etc.) - I think they are worth another shot, as you were so excited to try the look!

  ETA: I'd like to see both your leather jackets with the BFs!

• CocoLion replied 11 years ago

  I thought you looked cute and sassy in your bf's.

  My experience with bfs as been that, as a petite, I prefer them slimmer and rolled longer with a simple, heeled shoe such as the Report Marks bootie. A blazer or button down add structure and dignity to this otherwise super casual look.

  However I also understand that sometimes, after experimenting with a look, you discover it just isn't for you. I so much wanted to wear neon yellow skinnies or capris this summer, but after repeated tries, I felt the look just wasn't feeling right on me.

• Deborah replied 11 years ago

  Shannon, it's been said but I agree that just because something looks good, doesnt mean its "you". How we feel is as important as how we look. For me the BF look is something I am happy to pass on amd leave to others as I just don't feel "authentic" in that look. I think you look great in your boyfriends and with some further playing around I have no doubt you will make them work for you. I think it was a recent post where I felt you had really made the look your own.

• Transcona Shannon replied 11 years ago

  Denise - I think you have also revealed one of the issues I'm having with the jeans - the width of the legs. Because I'm a larger size and then went up a size to get more slouch, the legs on the Gap BF's are quite wide and big. I'm wondering if perhaps trying a different brand with slimmer legs might help? I also thought about getting Wonder Woman to try and take in the legs from just above the knee down so that they are slimmer - what do you think?

• Diana replied 11 years ago

  Shannon, I just had another idea. I wonder if what you need is some waist definition. Since BF jeans are worn so low on the hips, and you are an apple, maybe you are losing your waist and you need to add it back to counteract the masculinity. (Maybe this is why I find the BF look very easy to pull off for myself, because my waist is always there whether or not I want to show it).

  So maybe try pairing a peplum top or a blazer with a nipped in waist with the jeans?
  http://www.google.com/search?q.....38;bih=713